Facebook and Relationships

We've heard a lot about this topic! Facebook is ruining relationships across the world...it's a fact right? Before Facebook came along, people who were otherwise apparently happily married turned into cheaters almost overnight! What's the reason for this?

Is it that they weren't so happy in their marriage after all, could it be they were comfortable and maybe the warm fuzzies weren't what they expected after the courting stage was over, or is the nostalgia of what could have been with an old flame? Obviously every situation is different, I think it's more the latter.

According to Wikipedia "The term nostalgia describes a yearning for the past, often in idealized form.The word is a learned formation of a Greek compounds, consisting of νόστος, nóstos, "returning home", a Homeric word, and ἄλγος, álgos, "pain" or "ache". It was described as a medical condition, a form of melancholy, in the Early Modern period, and came to be an important topic in Romanticism."

Can you believe it was once considered a medical condition? It's probably because so many people have suffered from it's effects! Have you ever known someone that is stuck in the past, like 20+ years ago, and just can't let it go? Always talking about an old girlfriend or boyfriend or "the way things used to be".

It gets old fast...I know, I have seen it plenty. It's been good, everything is going along fine, it's been six months without a thought or word about an old flame and then WHAM! You get that "Hey stranger..." email or friend request and Love comes walking in. I have heard the success stories from a few of these relationships but how many of them don't work? I can't seem to find any statistics on this but I am willing to bet most don't work. I just hope these people are getting to know that lost love from 20, 30 or even 40 years ago before they destroy their families. I am not the person I was back then, not that I was a bad person. I don' t think you will find too many people to be what you remember from that long ago. Is a "yearning from the past, often in idealized form" worth throwing what you have away? People have it better than they think they do, how do we get them to realize it?

If I am ever in this situation, and I pray to God I never am, I don't know that I would have the strength to try to make my husband see how good things really are. I would be so hurt, I don't know that my ego would let me. Share your thoughts, I am curious if anyone out there in my e-universe circle has been through this and would be comfortable sharing your experience. It just might help someone else one day.

I am not a doctor. Any advice or opinions I give are simply advice from life experience and not that of a professional!